Women Do Abuse Men | The Victims No One Talks About

This episode is about male victims of female violence — men hit, abused, controlled, mocked, ignored, and erased because the perpetrator was a woman.

Men are told a simple story: men are perpetrators and women are victims. But the data is not that simple. In Australia, hundreds of thousands of men report physical and/or sexual violence from female partners — not including over one million men who report emotional abuse from female partners.

International research also shows women self-report physical partner violence against male partners at meaningful rates — sometimes higher than men — even though men’s violence is more likely to cause serious injury.

This episode is about recognising female victimisation without pretending male victimisation does not exist. There is a difference between protecting women and lying about men. There is a difference between acknowledging injury differences and using them to excuse female violence.

I discuss Australian Bureau of Statistics and Australian Institute of Health and Welfare data, male victims of female partners, female self-reported intimate partner violence, the Dunedin Study, Murray Straus, the Conflict Tactics Scale, gender symmetry, injury differences, men as punching bags, selective “context,” feminist and political domestic violence narratives, and why men stay silent when women hurt them.

Female violence is violence. Male victims are victims.

– CHAPTERS –

00:00 Men Are Victims Too
01:47 My Research Background on Male Violence
02:51 Australian Data: Male Victims Ignored
05:25 Women Self-Report Violence Too
09:45 Injury Differences & Male Restraint
11:02 Men as Punching Bags
13:48 Murray Arnold Straus & CTS
15:48 Conflict Tactics Scales Criticism
18:02 Context Shields Women
19:05 Women’s Violence at Parity
20:06 Feminist Research Censorship
20:52 Bidirectional IPV & Female Violence
21:53 Female Intimate Partner Homicide
23:02 Probability & Homicide Data
25:29 Was She Also a Perpetrator?
27:13 No Battered Man Syndrome
30:40 Self-Defence Double Standards
33:51 Systems Fail Male Victims
35:24 Abuse of Men by Women Is Common
37:30 Ignoring the Other Half of the Problem
40:25 Research, Funding & Service Failures
41:10 Episode 9 Preview
43:15 Final Thoughts & Support

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Disclaimer: This video is commentary and personal opinion. It is not financial advice, legal advice, psychological advice, medical advice, or relationship counselling.

Support: If you are in crisis, contact your local crisis line or emergency services. In Australia, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. Outside Australia, find a local helpline through Befrienders Worldwide. If life is in immediate danger, call your local emergency number.

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– REFERENCES –

Australian Data:

Australian Bureau of Statistics. (2023). Partner violence. https://www.abs.gov.au/statist....ics/people/crime-and

Australian Bureau of Statistics. (2023). Personal safety, Australia, 2021–22. https://www.abs.gov.au/statist....ics/people/crime-and

Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. (2024). Who uses family, domestic and sexual violence? https://www.aihw.gov.au/family....-domestic-and-sexual

Female Perpetration, Gender Symmetry & Male Victimisation:

Archer, J. (2000). Sex differences in aggression between heterosexual partners: A meta-analytic review. Psychological Bulletin, 126(5), 651–680. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.126.5.651

Desmarais, S. L., Reeves, K. A., Nicholls, T. L., Telford, R. P., & Fiebert, M. S. (2012). Prevalence of physical violence in intimate relationships, Part 2: Rates of male and female perpetration. Partner Abuse, 3(2), 170–198. https://doi.org/10.1891/1946-6560.3.2.170

Magdol, L., Moffitt, T. E., Caspi, A., Newman, D. L., Fagan, J., & Silva, P. A. (1997). Gender differences in partner violence in a birth cohort of 21-year-olds: Bridging the gap between clinical and epidemiological approaches. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 65(1), 68–78. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.65.1.68

Straus, M. A. (2010). Thirty years of denying the evidence on gender symmetry in partner violence: Implications for prevention and treatment. Partner Abuse, 1(3), 332–362.

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