CONFORM TO REALITY

This girl seems pretty cool, but she fell for a trap that gets a lot of us. It got me for a while, too.

That trap is the notion that you are entitled to have other people like you for who and what you are. It sounds like this: "You can do anything you want! Express yourself how you want to! If people don't like it, that's their problem!"

And that's all well and good until you make a choice that changes how people perceive you in a way you didn't want. Her tattoos and gym body make men shy to take her seriously (she thinks (and so do I, I think most men perceive tats and muscles like that on women))

It's easier to be what people like than it is to make them like what you are.